1:1 SUPPORT · 3–6 MONTHS
Everything undercontrol, just notin love?
Professional 1:1 support over 3–6 months for men and women who know what they want, are ready to invest in themselves – and want to change their relationship patterns for good.
- people supported in my practice
- 1200+
- in practice
- Since 2017
- not just talking
- Somatic
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
You have so much under control. But in love, you feel as if you lose your footing every single time.
You analyse every message, every pause, every tone of voice – and can only calm down once he or she gets in touch.
You long for closeness – and as soon as it is really there, it feels too tight, you start to doubt or you pull away.
You keep ending up with people who are not quite emotionally available – even though you promise yourself something different.
You actually know a lot about attachment already. But your body still reacts – with fear, restlessness or a sudden emptiness.
Your self-worth rises and falls with every message that arrives – or doesn’t.
Many people believe they are “just anxiously attached”. Often there is a fearful-avoidant attachment style behind it – a deeper pattern of longing and protection. That is exactly what I specialise in.
It’s not your fault. It’s what your nervous system has learned.
Your patterns are not a weakness of character. They are survival strategies that once protected you – and that today keep you from receiving the love you long for.
That is why understanding alone is not enough. Real change happens where the patterns are stored: in the subconscious and in the body.
MY APPROACH
From survival patterns to secure attachment
THE HEART OF IT
The Mirjam Barner GGN method
My own method works directly with the subconscious – in three areas that together make real, secure attachment possible.
Beliefs
Recognising limiting beliefs, turning them into empowering ones – and learning to embody them.
Core emotional needs
Sensing your deepest needs and learning to meet them yourself – instead of looking for them outside.
Nervous system regulation
Anchoring safety in your body, so that closeness and distance no longer feel threatening.
Subconscious-focused methods
Methods that work directly with the subconscious – above all my GGN method. Not just talking.
Nervous system regulation
Somatic Experiencing (body work), so that safety is not only something you think, but something you feel.
Trauma and pattern work
Resolving old wounds, complex trauma and unhealthy behaviour patterns.
Practical integration
Cognitive reframing and active integration of the new patterns into your everyday life and your relationships.
THE JOURNEY
By your side for 3 to 6 months
PHASE 1
Understanding & safety
We identify your limiting beliefs and convictions and transform them into empowering ones. You learn to embody the new beliefs and to meet your core emotional needs yourself.
PHASE 2
Releasing
We work at the roots: old wounds, protective strategies and the beliefs behind them.
PHASE 3
Integrating
You practise new patterns in real life – in dating, in your relationship, in contact with yourself. Along the way, a stable self-confidence grows that no longer depends on how the other person reacts.
I guide you through deep inner processes around:
- Inner child healing & attachment patterns
- Heartbreak, letting go & separation
- Shadow work & integration
- Relationship patterns & toxic dynamics
The coaching takes place online on Zoom and, if you prefer, in person in Berlin and Potsdam.
This is for you if …
- you are confident in many areas of your life, but keep losing yourself in relationships
- you used to consider yourself securely attached – because your partners were usually more anxious than you – until you met a strongly avoidant person for the first time, who left you
- you recognise yourself in the fearful-avoidant (disorganised) attachment style
- you experience the same patterns with different partners
- you have already understood a lot, but feel that nothing is changing inside
- you are ready to work on yourself with commitment over several months
… and not for you if
- you are looking for a quick fix in a single session
- you are not ready to invest in yourself
- you mainly want the other person to change
- you are currently in an acute mental health crisis
ABOUT ME
I’m Mirjam Barner
I specialise in the fearful-avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. I don’t only know it from my practice, but from my own experience: I had it myself. That is why I know how exhausting the back and forth between longing and withdrawal is – and that the path to secure attachment is possible. I trained with Tony Robbins.
My focus lies where talking alone no longer helps: in the nervous system and in the subconscious.
“I know both: the fear of being left – and the urge to leave myself when things get serious. That’s exactly why I know this can change.”
Training & mentors
- Main mentor & trainer: Tony Robbins (trained with Tony Robbins)
- Mentor: Diane Poole Heller (seminars)
- Mentor: Peter Levine, Somatic Experiencing (seminars)
Expertise
- Nervous system regulation
- Attachment healing
- Somatic Experiencing
- Cognitive reframing
- Self-confidence & self-worth
- Resolving attachment trauma
- Resolving trauma bonds
CLIENT VOICES
Testimonials
„The coaching with Mirjam Barner helped me tremendously in developing a more secure attachment style. After a painful experience with an avoidant woman, my self-worth was deeply shaken. Mirjam showed me effective techniques that helped me regain my self-worth and calm my nervous system. Today, I have found a new love that feels secure, easy, and truly wonderful. I am very grateful to Mirjam for that. I can recommend her coaching to anyone who wants to change their relationship patterns.“
Georg Breitenberger „It’s never too late to change your attachment style for a better life. I started with a slightly avoidant, insecure attachment style. So much has changed since the coaching.
- I left my avoidant partner.
- I learned to appreciate and value myself more.
- I met avoidant women who couldn’t handle my secure attachment style.
All I can say is that Mirjam puts her heart and soul into her work as a coach.“
Hegler Hagen „Dear Mirjam, thank you for the wonderful coaching. I discovered Mirjam on YouTube and immediately connected with her incredibly warm, genuine, and clear way of communicating. The six-month coaching journey was a true gift. Through affirmations and meditations tailored specifically to me, inner child work, and her quick responses to spontaneous questions during a very challenging time, I gradually found more solid ground beneath my feet, gained greater clarity, and developed a deeper connection with my inner self. The beautiful thing is that professional changes also came more and more into focus and have now become possible. Dear Mirjam, thank you from the bottom of my heart!“
Dorothea Smendek „The coaching was an incredibly valuable and profound experience for me. Through the coaching, I developed a much better understanding of why I kept attracting people with avoidant or disorganized attachment styles. What I found particularly helpful was the deep work on my inner child, my core beliefs, my self-worth, as well as my own behavioral patterns and triggers. This helped me recognize many connections I hadn’t been aware of before and understand why I repeatedly react in certain ways in specific situations. Gaining a better understanding of my nervous system was also extremely helpful. I learned to make better sense of my reactions and to stop seeing everything as a personal failure or ‘wrong behavior.’ The coaching provided me with valuable insights and tools to gradually change old patterns and build healthy relationships with myself and others. Throughout the entire process, I felt truly seen, understood, and supported with genuine care and appreciation. For me, it was an important journey toward greater self-understanding, self-worth, and inner security. Choosing to invest in this coaching was one of the best decisions of my life, and I am incredibly grateful that I took this step. I wholeheartedly recommend this coaching to anyone who truly wants to understand their relationship patterns and create lasting change!“
Frank BarteltBest decision of my life „The coaching with Mirjam was exactly what I needed. The coaching with Mirjam was incredibly valuable to me. During our conversations, I felt truly seen and understood. What touched me most was the work we did around self-love and basic emotional needs. Mirjam is an attachment style expert and explains the connection between our attachment style, our basic emotional needs, core beliefs, and self-love in a very clear and understandable way. Understanding which needs are influencing me and how closely they are connected to my beliefs and attachment style helped me gain much greater clarity about my own experiences. Mirjam smiles a lot and radiates a sense of calm that immediately creates trust. Even when discussing difficult topics, working with her feels light, safe, and supportive. I felt very well supported throughout this process, and by the end of the coaching, I feel significantly more stable and grounded within myself. So many things have become clearer, and I will carry this newfound inner security with me as I move forward. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Mirchen!“
Sascha Ernst From a Disorganized to a Secure Attachment Style
„When I came across Mirjam by chance at the end of November, I had reached a very low point in my life.
Through the help and support I received during the coaching, I was able to improve my situation tremendously, and today I can honestly say that I am happy and content again.
I would never have imagined how many areas of our lives are affected by our attachment style.
It's also important to bring a certain level of self-awareness and a willingness to change.
If you are ready to embark on the journey of healing your attachment style, you are in the best possible hands with Mirjam.“
Alex
Frequently asked questions
We work together over 3 to 6 months in regular 1:1 sessions.
Online on Zoom.
Yes, the coaching is for singles and people in a relationship alike.
Yes, I’m happy to send you my certificate on request.
Yes, if you live in Berlin/Potsdam.
There are different packages at different prices. In our conversation we’ll look at which one suits your situation best and discuss your investment.
Press enquiries: kontakt@mirjambarnercoaching.com
Speaker requests: kontakt@mirjambarnercoaching.com
THE FIRST STEP
Let’s find out whether I can support you.
In the free intro call we look at your situation together and at whether the 1:1 support is right for you. Non-binding and confidential.
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